Belief in the corporal punishment of children, though still held
to a varying degree by the majority of Americans, currently
suffers an image problem. More and more, it seems that the time-honored
practice of spanking children is viewed with disfavor,
particularly among academics, as crude, unenlightened, oppressive,
perhaps even faintly barbaric. Reinforcing this negative
perception is an accumulation of scientific studies that present
a connection between corporal punishment and a number of
individual and social pathologies, including depression, anxiety,
drug abuse, domestic violence, and delinquency.
Enter Den A. Trumbull, M.D. and S. DuBose Ravenel, M.D., two
pediatricians who have split ranks from the American Medical
Association to lend their authority and sophistication to the
defense of parental spanking. In a joint essay entitled "Spare
the Rod?"1 published last year in The
Family Research Council's Family Policy magazine, Drs. Trumbull and Ravenel attempt
to discredit one by one the many arguments made against spanking. To meet their challenge, I will attempt here to rebut
their counterpoints in sequence.
In their introduction the authors cite an FRC poll which reveals
that "more than than four out of five Americans [of 1000+
surveyed] who were actually spanked by their parents say that it
was an effective form of discipline." The authors call these
results "impressive" without taking into account two very strong
and natural biases: reluctance to fault one's beloved parents and
desire to present oneself as a well-formed individual. The
first, touching as it may often be, has many times led even
horribly abused children to blame themselves for the hurts they
have received, thereby acquitting the abuser (though when there
is the threat of further abuse, these pardons may be interpreted
partly as the repression of provocative anger.) The latter is
suggested in the familiar argument of "I got spanked and I turned
out okay"--as if someone could as readily state that they turned
out not so good.
The authors' central criticism of all the research that points to
a negative view of spanking is that these studies "fail to
distinguish appropriate spanking from. . . abusive forms of
physical punishment such as kicking, punching, and beating,"
which are "commonly grouped with mild spanking." This may at
first sound like an egregious failure indeed, as if all these
scientists had somehow indicated that kicking or punching is no
more pychologically harmful to children than mild spanking. I
suspect that in most cases, however, the "grouping" criticized by the authors is actually the essential recognition of physical punishment as a quantitative variable. In
other words, there are many different degrees of physical punishment (in terms of severity2 as well as frequency) inflicted on children, degrees ranging from the mildest (e.g., isolated swats) to the most extreme (e.g., intensive beating). Rather than dividing this range into a few imprecise sections, it makes practical sense to express it all in a single variable. On a graph, this would be represented as a single continuous line, as is proper for testing the correlation between physical punishment and negative results. Rather than
labeling certain degrees of physical punishment as "appropriate"
or "abusive" in their data, many scientists--much to their
credit--refrain from interjecting their own opinions on just
where that line should be
drawn.3 Such judgements, though informed by science, are properly left to general society.
The authors also object to studies which include data on the
physical punishment of adolescents as well as pre-school children,
for whom spanking is presumably a more effective means of
discipline. This complaint is logical only if in fact these
studies have not given various age groups separate as well as
collective consideration. Otherwise, the inclusion of data on
teens--they get physically punished too--only augments the value
of the research.
I would concede the authors' point that most (certainly
many) of the arguments against spanking could also be leveled
against non-physical forms of discipline, which may be used very
injudiciously to the detriment of a child's development. At the
same time, however, corporal punishment has unique qualities that
are missed in such superficial comparisons. Because it makes the
body a direct transmitter of condemnation, corporal punishment is
an inherently personal, and thus inherently problematic method of
conditioning behavior. Unlike many non-physical punishments,
moreover, a spanking is naturally irrevocable, difficult to make up
for should a child be subsequently vindicated, and, most
importantly, prone to dangerous escalation. It should also be
noted that while the authors assure us that "disciplinary
spanking can fall well within the boundaries of loving discipline
and need not be labeled abusive violence," it is a fact that
spanking often goes far beyond their conception of loving
discipline without being labeled abusive violence.
Such an objection might seem petty were it not for the
authors' closing assertion that there is "insufficient evidence" to
denounce spanking and "adequate evidence" to justify it. Most
condemnation of spanking, in fact, does not rest solely, or even
mainly, upon evidence. It rests upon simple--though some might
call them simplistic--moral standards. I don't know if there is
"sufficient evidence" to condemn petty theft, but I nonetheless
will maintain that it is improper.
This point can be put aside, however, if we assume that
"propriety" generally accords with being "beneficial," to use the
authors' subsequent language, rather than "detrimental." The
authors cite a systematic review which "found that 83 percent of
the 132 identified articles [on corporal punishment] published in
clinical and psychosocial journals were merely opinion-driven
editorials, reviews or commentaries, devoid of new empirical
findings" and that "the best studies [which differentiated spanking
from abuse] demonstrated beneficial, not detrimental, effects of
spanking in certain situations."
Counterpoint: The "spanking teaches hitting" belief has gained in popularity over
the past decade, but is not supported by objective evidence. A distinction must be
made between abusive hitting and nonabusive spanking. A child's ability to
discriminate hitting from disciplinary spanking depends largely upon the parents'
attitude with spanking and the parents' procedure for spanking. There is no
evidence in the medical literature that a mild spank to the buttocks of a disobedient
child by a loving parent teaches the child aggressive behavior.
The critical issue is how spanking is used more than whether it is used.
The critical issue is how spanking (or, in fact, any punishment) is used more so
than whether it is used. Physical abuse by an angry, uncontrolled parent will leave
lasting emotional wounds and cultivate bitterness and resentment within a child.
The balanced, prudent use of disciplinary spanking, however, is an effective
deterrent to aggressive behavior with some children.
Researchers at the Center for Family Research at Iowa State University studied 332
families to examine both the impact of corporal punishment and the quality of
parental involvement on three adolescent outcomes -- aggressiveness, delinquency,
and psychological well-being. The researchers found a strong association between
the quality of parenting and each of these three outcomes. Corporal punishment,
however, was not adversely related to any of these outcomes. This study proves
the point that quality of parenting is the chief determinant of favorable or
unfavorable outcomes.7 Remarkably, childhood aggressiveness has been more closely linked to maternal permissiveness and negative criticism than to even abusive physical discipline.8
It is unrealistic to expect that children would never hit others if their parents would
only exclude spanking from their discipline options. Most children in their toddler
years (long before they are ever spanked) naturally attempt to hit others when
conflict or frustration arises. The continuation of this behavior is largely determined
by how the parent or caregiver responds. If correctly disciplined, the hitting will
become less frequent. If ignored or ineffectively disciplined, the hitting will likely
persist and even escalate. Thus, instead of contributing to greater violence,
spanking can be a useful component in an overall plan to effectively teach a child to
stop aggressive hitting.
Any form of discipline (time-out, restriction, etc.), when used inappropriately and in anger, can distort a child's perception of justice and harm his emotional development.
7. Simons, Ronald L., Johnson, Christine, and Conger, Rand D. "Harsh Corporal Punishment versus Quality of Parental Involvement as an Explanation of Adolescent Maladjustment." Journal of
Marriage and Family. 1994; 56:591-607.
8. Olweus, Dan. "Familial and Tempermental Determinants of Aggressive Behavior in Adolescent Boys: A Causal Analysis." Developmental Psychology. 1980; 16:644-660.
Even so, this type of hitting may not be generally severe enough to qualify as abuse in the popular sense. We can therefore proceed with the authors' discussion of "nonabusive spanking."
"There is no evidence in the medical literature that a mild spank to the buttocks of a disobedient child by a loving parent teaches the child aggressive behavior," the authors assert. There may well not be--although "medical literature" is curiously narrow; the vast majority of scientific literature on corporal punishment would not be considered "medical" as such. I wonder, though, if any medical studies of spanking have actually controlled for these variables of
"disobedient" and "loving." As the authors never acknowledge
anything intrinsic to spanking that could promote aggressive
behavior, we might infer more simply that "a mild spank to the
buttocks of a child by a parent will not teach the child aggressive
behavior." Is there evidence in the medical literature to refute
this broader claim?
Even if there is not, I doubt the authors would feel
comfortable saying so. Without their righteous and pacifying
qualifiers (however unscientific), they would have a harder time
selling spanking--even "mild" spanking--as something free of
drawbacks.
Of course, the authors make a point that spanking, or any
punishment, must be considered in context ("how it is used" rather
than "whether it is used") to understand its effect. A more
complete perspective, however, demands that we also consider
spanking itself, even apart from the context of punishment.
Context is always important, but it is not necessarily decisive.
Moreover, it is relatively subjective and thereby prone to
distortion, ambiguity, or even corruption (by which context becomes
pretext). Context is hence not the most dependable indicator of
true psychological import.
More troublesome is the way the authors gratuitously
characterize child abuse as the act of an "angry, uncontrolled
parent." While this is an accurate picture of many cases, it is
also something of a stereotype. The more chilling reality is that
a lot of child abuse is committed in a fairly calm and deliberate
manner, and usually with a disciplinary purpose.
The image of the angry, uncontrolled abuser is possibly
favored by the pro-spanking movement because abusers who maintain
a cool demeanor while professing concern for children's moral
correctness are less clearly cast against the "reasonableness" that
is often ascribed to nonabusive corporal punishment.
4 When the contrast is less immediate, it becomes apparent that distinguishing
abuse from appropriate discipline is not always so easy as the
authors often suggest and may require a more probing--and thus more
controversial--examination of parents' disciplinary techniques. In
any case, child abuse has a long history of passing for reasonable
discipline, not only in the mind of the abuser but also in the eyes
of society. It must therefore be stressed that cruelty, not anger
or lack of composure, is the essence of this crime against
children.
One can hardly dispute the authors' conclusion, backed by
research, that "quality of parenting, rather than corporal
punishment, is the chief determinant of favorable or unfavorable
outcomes." However, this is like saying that quality of diet,
rather than candy bars, is the chief determinant of good or poor
nutrition. Though true enough, it tells us nothing as to whether
candy bars are a positive, negative or neutral factor among the
many factors that make up nutrition. Likewise, this
"finding" cited by the authors says nothing as to whether corporal
punishment affects quality of parenting for good, for bad, or not
at all. Corporal punishment and quality of parenting are, after
all, a far cry from being discrete variables.
On the other hand, the authors do report that corporal
punishment "was not adversely related to any of these [adolescent]
outcomes [of aggresiveness, deliquency, and psychological well-
being]." Interestingly, however, the subject of this study,
according to the footnotes, was specifically "harsh corporal
punishment." So these conclusions, if accepted as sound, would
seem to vindicate even quite severe spankings. Considering their
statement in this article's very first paragraph that "loving and
effective discipline is quite definitely not harsh and abusive,"
and as much they emphasize "mildness," it is surprising that the
authors are not misgiven about this research.
As some level of aggression under stress seems to be innate in
humans and most other animals, there is reason in the authors'
belief that the elimination of spanking would not ensure the end of
aggressive behavior in children. The real question is whether
hitting children, to use an expression, adds fuel to the fire.
When children are hit or see other children hit by adults in
authority, it presents a model of conflict resolution to a very
impressionable audience. The supposed critical difference between
parents hitting children and children hitting children may easily
be lost on very young children--and questioned by older children.
But even if a child does not follow this example of his or her
parents, I think the authors might grant that the primal anger
which naturally comes from being hit ("deservedly" or not) can
compound aggressive tendencies as much as physical pain may deter
them. Positive parental love surely offsets a great
deal of this negativity, but the ambivalence of being struck by a
loved one is a problem in and of itself which the authors, like
most spanking advocates, fail to address.
Counterpoint: A study published in Pediatrics indicates that most parents who
spank do not spank on impulse, but purposefully spank their children with a belief
in its effectiveness.9 Furthermore, the study revealed no significant correlation
between the frequency of spanking and the anger reported by mothers. Actually,
the mothers who reported being angry were not the same parents who spanked.
Reactive, impulsive hitting after losing control due to anger is unquestionably the
wrong way for a parent to use corporal punishment. Eliminating all physical
punishment in the home, however, would not remedy such explosive scenarios. It
could even increase the problem. When effective spanking is removed from a
parent's disciplinary repertoire, he or she is left with nagging, begging, belittling, and
yelling, once the primary disciplinary measures--such as time-out and logical
consequences--have failed. By contrast, if proper spanking is proactively used in
conjunction with other disciplinary measures, better control of the particularly
defiant child can be achieved, and moments of exasperation are less likely to occur.
Remarkably, childhood aggressiveness has been
more closely linked to maternal permissiveness
and criticism than to even abusive physical discipline.
9. Socolar, Rebecca R. S., M.D. and Stein, Ruth E.K., M.D. "Spanking Infants and Toddlers: Maternal Belief and Practice." Pediatrics. 1995; 95:105-111.
This rationale for spanking is somewhat resigned to the human
fallibility of parents, who like everyone else lose their temper at
times and who may be caught off guard by the continual trials of
raising children. An allowance for pre-emptive spanking may
therefore appear realistic, prudent, even compassionate. The
problem with this thinking becomes more apparent, however, when
applied to conflicts other than those between parent and child. If
husbands once again had the right to spank their wives on occasion,
it would arguably defuse much of the marital conflict and tension
that often explodes into bruising domestic violence (or brims over
into degrading verbal abuse), yet this is not an acceptable
approach to reducing wife-battery. Depending on the moral
convictions of the reader with regard to parental spanking, the
authors' advice is more indulgent than practical.
The authors are right, of course, that spanking with calm
composure would avoid giving children the message that "anger and
frustration justify the use of physical force." Unfortunately, the
authors' prescriptions teach rather that anger and frustration are
simply not necessary to justify the use of physical force. Exactly
what is necessary in their view is something the authors would do
well to clarify.
The authors' state that by not spanking, one "runs the risk of
being inconsistent and rationalizing the [defiant] child's
behavior." This presents a false choice between spanking and
acquiescence. In truth, discipline can be quite firm and even
strict without resorting to the infliction of physical pain. The
fact that many successful day care services have policies of no
physical punishment shows just how non-essential spanking really is
to the management of children's behavior.
While the authors argue that even non-physical punishments
initially make a child angry and frustrated
6, they fail to
acknowledge physical punishment's distinct qualities. To
illustrate, consider the crying of a spanked child versus the
crying of a child punished non-physically. Are they equally
voluntary, or involuntary? Is one generally easier to quell? The
answers should hint strongly at the basic difference between
spanking and other forms of discipline.
Counterpoint: Parental power is commonly exerted in routine child rearing and
spanking is only one example. Other situations where power and restraint are
exercised by the average parent include:
The young child who insists on running from his parent in a busy mall or parking lot.
The toddler who refuses to sit in his car seat.
The young patient who refuses to hold still as a vaccination is administered, or
as a laceration is repaired.
Power and control over the child are necessary at times to ensure safety, health and
proper behavior. Classic child rearing studies have shown that some degree of
power, assertion,10 and firm control11 is essential for optimal child rearing.
When power is exerted in the context of love and for the child's benefit, the child
will not perceive it as bullying or demeaning.
10. Hoffman, Martin. "Parental Discipline and Child's Moral Development." Journal of Personal Social Psychology. 1967; 5:45-57.
11. Baumrind, Diana, Ph.D. "Rearing Competent Children." Damon, W. (Ed.) Child Development Today and Tomorrow. 1989; pp.349-378. San Francisco, Calif.: Jossey-Bass.
In their answer, however, the authors regrettably fail to
distinguish between physical punishment and physical constraint or
control. Police officers, for example, have the license
to use physical force if necessary to apprehend and subdue potentially
dangerous suspects. This task may sometimes require rough and
painful handling. Once the suspect is under control and the threat
is contained, however, an officer cannot strike him to punish his
resistance. To do so would be police brutality.
Physical pain or discomfort is sometimes a by-product of
proper child care and supervision, as with vaccinations or the
stifling of reckless motion. With spanking, by contrast, pain is
the essential ingredient.
A CLOSER LOOK--Distinguishing Spanking from Abuse
Corporal punishment is often defined broadly as bodily punishment of any kind.
Since this definition includes spanking as well as obviously abusive acts such as
kicking, punching, beating, face slapping, and even starvation, more specific
definitions must be used to separate appropriate versus inappropriate corporal
punishment.
Spanking is one of many disciplinary responses available to parents intended to
shape appropriate behavior in the developing toddler and child. It is an adjunctive
corrective measure, to be used in combination with primary responses such as
restraint, natural and logical consequences, time-out, and restriction of privileges.
Child development experts believe spanking should be used mainly as a back-up to
primary measures, and then independently to correct deliberate and persistent
problem behavior that is not remedied with milder measures. It is most useful with
toddlers and preschoolers from 18 months to 6 years of age, when reasoning is less
persuasive.
Moreover, child development experts say that spanking should always be a planned
action by a parent, not an impulsive reaction to misbehavior. The child should be
forewarned of the spanking consequence for each of the designated problem
behaviors. Spanking should always be administered in private. It should consist of
one or two spanks to the child's buttocks, followed by a calm review of the offense
and the desired behavior.
Spanking Physical Abuse
The Act Spanking: One or Beating: To strike
two spanks to the repeatedly (also
buttocks kick, punch, choke)
The Intent Training: To Violence: Physical
correct problem force intended to
behavior injure or abuse
The Attitude With love and With anger and
concern malice
The Effects Behavioral Emotional and
correction physical injury
If the average spanking in America consisted only of "one or
two spanks to the buttocks," then the authors' generalizing usage
might be easily pardoned. In reality, though, the range of
socially accepted (and legally approved) "spanking" goes far beyond
the mild chastisement they wish to denote.
7 Beating, which the
authors define as "to strike repeatedly," can surely take the
form of a spanking.
The chart by which the authors delineate spanking vs. physical
abuse in terms of "The Act, The Intent, The Attitude, The Effects"
suggests a concept of child abuse that is woefully simplistic.
Specifically, the authors should be advised of the following:
Physical abuse often intends to correct problem behavior, not to
injure or abuse. Physical abuse may be attended by love and
concern, not by anger and malice. Proper intent and attitude,
moreover, do not necessarily lessen the emotional injury of abuse
and may add confusion to the pain--even though behavioral
correction has perhaps been accomplished.
Counterpoint: Spanking, as recommended by most primary care
physicians,12 is not violence by definition ("exertion of physical force so as to injure or abuse").13 Parents who properly spank do not injure or abuse their child.
The use of this term "violence" in the spanking debate only serves to deepen the
confusion. Why do anti-spanking authors repeatedly fail to distinguish between
abusive violence and mild spanking? The distinction is so fundamental and obvious
that its omission suggests that these authors use such terminology for its
propaganda value, not to clarify issues.
When effective spanking
is removed from a parent's
disciplinary repertoire, he
or she is left with nagging,
begging, belittling, and
yelling, once the primary
disciplinary measures have
failed.
12. McCormick, Kenelm F., M.D. "Attitudes of Primary Care Physicians Toward Corporal
Punishment." Journal of the American Medical Association. 1992; 267:3161-3165.
13. Webster's Ninth New Collegiate Dictionary. 1987; p. 1316. Massachusetts: Merriam-Webster, Inc.
Counterpoint: Though the specific use of appropriate spanking has rarely been
studied, there is evidence of its short-term and long-term effectiveness. When
combined with reasoning, the use of negative consequences (including spanking)
does effectively decrease the frequency of misbehavior recurrences with preschool
children.14 In clinical field trials where parental spanking has been studied, it has
consistently been found to reduce the subsequent frequency of noncompliance with
time-out.15 Spanking, as a effective enforcer of time-out, is a component of
several well-researched parent training programs16 and popular parenting
texts.17
Dr. Diana Baumrind of the Institute for Human Development at the University of
California-Berkeley, conducted a decade-long study of families with children 3 to 9
years old.18 Baumrind found that parents employing a balanced disciplinary style
of firm control (including spanking) and positive encouragement experienced the
most favorable outcome in their children. Parents taking extreme approaches to
discipline (authoritarian-types using excessive punishment with less encouragement
or permissive-types using little punishment and no spanking) were less successful.
Baumrind concluded that evidence from this study "did not indicate that negative
reinforcement or corporal punishment per se were harmful or ineffective
procedures, but rather the total patterns of parental control determined the effects
on the child of these procedures."
This approach of balanced parenting, employing the occasional use of spanking, is
advocated by several child rearing experts.19 In the hands of loving parents, a
spanking to the buttocks of a defiant toddler in appropriate settings is a powerful
motivator to correct behavior and an effective deterrent to disobedience.
14. Larzelere, Dr. Robert E. and Merenda, Dr. J.A. "The Effectiveness of Parental Discipline for
Toddler Misbehavior at Different Levels of Child Distress." Family Relations. 1994; 43 (4).
15. Roberts, Mark W. and Powers, Scott W. "Adjusting Chair Time-out Enforcement Procedures for
Oppositional Children." Behavioral Therapy. 1990; 21:257-271, and Bean, Arthur W. and Roberts,
Mark W. "The Effect of Time-out Release Contingencies on Changes in Child Noncompliance."
Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology. 1981; 9:95-105.
16. Forehand, R.L. and McMahon, R.J. Helping the Noncompliant Child. 1981; pp. 79-80. New York:
Guilford Press.
17. Clark, Lynn C. SOS! Help for Parents. 1985; pp. 181-185. Kentucky: Parents Press.
18. Baumrind, Dr. Diana. "The Development of Instrumental Competence Through Socialization.
Minnesota Symposia on Child Psychology. 1973; 7:3-46.
19. Austin, Glenn. Love and Power: How to Raise Competent, Confident Children. 1988. California:
Robert Erdmann Publishing. Also, Dobson, Dr. James. The Strong-Willed Child. 1985. Illinois:
Tyndale House Publishers, and Coopersmith, Stanley. The Antecedents of Self-Esteem. 1967. New
York: W.H. Freeman & Co. Reprinted 1981. California: Consulting Psychologists Press, Inc.
Perhaps we are supposed to conclude, at any rate, that in the
big picture of parenting ("total patterns"), a little spanking is
unlikely to be much of a deciding factor. This holistic view seems
reasonable enough, but as a defense of corporal punishment, it is
a double-edged sword. As much as inconsequentiality might make
spanking harder to object to, it also makes spanking less
justifiable in the first place.
Counterpoint: This theory comes from work done by Murray Straus of the
Family Research Lab at the University of New Hampshire. Straus' conclusions are
based upon theoretical models and survey results of adults recalling spankings as
teenagers. His work is not clinical research, and many experts believe that his
conclusions go far beyond his data. As with most of Straus' survey research,
teenage spanking is the focus, not the selective use of spanking of young children
by reasonable parents. The evidence for his conclusion disappears when parental
spanking is measured between the ages of 2 and 8 years, and when childhood
aggression is measured at a later age.
Parents employing a balanced disciplinary style
of firm control (including spanking) and positive
encouragement experienced the most favorable outcome in their children.
In a 1994 review article on corporal punishment, Dr. Robert E. Larzelere, a
director of research at Boys Town, Nebraska, presents evidence supporting a
parent's selective use of spanking of children, particularly those 2 to 6 years
old.20 After thoroughly reviewing the literature, Larzelere concludes that any
association between spanking and antisocial aggressiveness in children is
insignificant and artifactual.
After a decade of longitudinal study of children beginning in third grade, Dr.
Leonard Eron found no association between punishment (including spanking) and
later aggression. Eron, a clinical psychologist at the Univeristy of Michigan's
Institute for Social Research, concluded, "Upon follow-up 10 years after the
original data collection, we found that punishment of aggressive acts at the earlier
age was no longer related to current aggression, and instead, other variables like
parental nurturance and children's identification with their parents were more
important in predicting later aggression."21
Larzelere concludes that
any association between
spanking and antisocial
aggressiveness in children
is insignificant and
artifactual.
Again, it is the total pattern of parenting that determines the outcome of a parent's
efforts.
20. Larzelere, Dr. Robert E. "Should the Use of Corporal Punishment by Parents be Considered Child
Abuse?" Mason, M., Gambrill, E. (Eds.) Debating Children's Lives. 1994; pp. 204-209. California:
SAGE Publications.
21. Eron, Dr. Leonard D. "Theories of Aggression: From Drives to Cognitions." Huesmann, L.R. (Ed.)
Aggressive Behavior, Current Perspectives. 1994; pp. 3-11. New York: Plenum Press.
It should also be noted that Dr. Straus has recently put forth
an entire book on the subject of spanking, entitled Beating the
Devil out of Them: Corporal Punishment in American Families (New
York: Free Press, 1994). This work presents a much more complete
and challenging argument against spanking than was possible in the
earlier journal piece cited by the authors. (Other spanking
apologists who criticize Straus's work similarly appear to be
acquainted with only the short article.
13)
There is also Dr. Larzelere's conclusion that "any association
between spanking and antisocial aggressiveness in children
14 is
insignificant and artifactual." Any association at all? This is
certainly a big and unqualified claim. Given the high degree of
corporal punishment--not necessarily abuse by law--which the
average violent criminal (adult or juvenile) has experienced
growing up, Dr. Larzelere's statement is overreaching, to say the
least.
With Dr. Eron's research, the authors once again make the
awkward point that the total pattern of parenting supersedes any
single facet of that pattern (which is rather like saying that a
sum is greater than any number added in calculation of that sum).
In presenting the variable of punishment (including spanking--again
in parentheses) simply as a rival to "other variables like parental
nurturance and children's identification with their parents,"
however, Dr. Eron fails to acknowledge the two-way relationship
between punishment and these other factors. If data were compiled,
for instance, on the quality of parental nurturance achieved with
non-spanked children versus children spanked to varying degrees,
the results might give a different impression of spanking than the
authors have striven for.
Counterpoint: The abuse potential when loving parents use appropriate
disciplinary spanking is very low. Since parents have a natural affection for their
children, they are more prone to underutilize spanking than to overutilize it. Both
empirical data and professional opinion oppose the concept of a causal relationship
between spanking and child abuse.
Surveys indicate that 70 to 90 percent of parents of preschoolers use spanking,22
yet the incidence of physical child abuse in America is only about 5 percent.
Statistically, the two practices are far apart. Furthermore, over the past decade
reports of child abuse have steadily risen while approval for parental spanking has
steadily declined.23
More than 70 percent of primary care pediatricians reject the idea that spanking
sets the stage for parents to engage in forms of physical abuse.24
Teaching parents appropriate spanking may actually reduce child abuse, according
to Larzelere, in his 1994 review article on corporal punishment.25 Parents who
are ill-equipped to control their child's behavior, or who take a more permissive
approach (refusing to use spanking), may be more prone to anger26 and explosive
attacks on their child.27
Parental child abuse is an interactive process involving parental competence,
parental and child temperaments, and situational demands.28 Abusive parents are
more angry, depressed and impulsive, and emphasize punishment as the
predominant means of discipline. Abused children are more aggressive and less
compliant than children from nonabusive families. There is less interaction between
family members in abusive families and abusive mothers display more negative than
positive behavior. The etiology of abusive parenting is multifactorial with emphasis
on the personalities involved, and cannot be simply explained by a parent's use of
spanking.
In a letter to the editor in a 1995 issue of Pediatrics, Drs. Lawrence S. Wissow
and Debra Roter of Johns Hopkins University's pediatrics department acknowledge
that a definitive link between spanking and child abuse has yet to be
established.29
Finally, the Swedish experiment to reduce child abuse by banning spanking seems
to be failing. In 1980, one year after this ban was adopted, the rate of child beatings
was twice that of the United States.30 According to a 1995 report from the
government organization Statistics Sweden, police reports of child abuse by family
members rose four-fold from 1984 to 1994, while reports of teen violence
increased nearly six-fold.31
The Swedish experiment to
reduce child abuse by
banning spanking seems
to be failing.
Most experts agree that spanking and child abuse are not on the same continuum,
but are very different entities. With parenting, it is the "user" and how a measure is
used much more than the measure used that determines the outcome of the
disciplinary effort. Clearly, spanking can be safely used in the discipline of young
children with an excellent outcome. The proper use of spanking may actually
reduce a parent's risk of abusing the child.
22. Straus, Murray A. "Discipline and Deviance: Physical Punishment of Children and Violence and
Other Crime in Adulthood." Social Problems. 1991; 38:133-152.
23. National Committee to Prevent Child Abuse. Memorandum. May 1995; 2(5).
24.White, Kristin. "Where Pediatricians Stand on Spanking." Pediatric Management. September 1993:
11-15.
25. Larzelere, Dr. Robert E., op. cit.
26. Socolar, Rebecca R.S., M.D. and Stein, Ruth E.K., M.D., op. cit.
27. Baumrind, Dr. Diana, op. cit.
28. Wolfe, David A. "Child-Abusive Parents: An Empirical Review and Analysis." Psychological
Bulletin. 1985; 97(3): 462-482.
29. Wissow, Dr. Lawrence S. and Roter, Dr. Debra. Letter to the editor, in reply to corporal
punishment letter. Pediatrics. 1995; 96(4): 794-795.
30. Larzelere, Dr. Robert E., op. cit.
31. Statistics Sweden. K R Info. May 1995; pp. 1-6. Stockholm, Sweden.
Maybe the presumption of parents' "natural affection for their
children" does not itself need supporting data. It is an agreeable
axiom, after all, that parental tenderness is inherent to having
produced offspring. History, nonetheless, shows these feelings to
be tragically unreliable as a safeguard against cruelty to
children. (In the households of the Puritans in early America,
children were typically beaten or flogged, sometimes even from
infancy. Did the Puritans lack "natural affection" for their
young?) Even today, the million-plus children abused each year in
the U.S. alone make a grim mockery of the authors' trust in
instinctive parental kindness, which--despite its primacy and
preciousness--does not always reign supreme.
The authors are correct that the etiology of child abuse is
multifactorial, and it would take a myopic scientist indeed to deny
their assertion that abusive parenting "cannot be simply explained
by a parent's use of spanking." (Is there anyone to whom they
could actually attribute a contrary position?) Causation in
general can rarely be reduced to a single factor. What apparently
has escaped the authors is that mere spanking can and often does
proceed from the same factors that can lead to child abuse, such as
moodiness, stress, and general punitive attitude.
Obviously, a mild spanking cannot express the same degree of
these factors that a heavy thrashing would. But these factors can
be just as strong with non-thrashing parents, the difference being
that they are better able to keep such negative forces in check.
This level of restraint, however great and laudable, may be subject
to breaches, a fact the authors seem to realize in arguing that
parents' refusal to use spanking can result in "explosive attacks
on their child."
16 While the effect of spanking a child on one's
adrenaline production is not readily measured, the authors seem to
take quite a gamble in encouraging parents to hit their children a
little now in order to avoid hitting them really hard later. Even
if most parents who spank never end up thrashing, few children are
thrashed who are not first spanked.
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Despite what "most experts" may say, spanking and child abuse
are not wholly separate entities. As the authors themselves put
it, "a definitive line between spanking and child abuse has yet to
be established." Even if spanking per se is not abuse, it is wrong
to suppose that spanking is categorically non-abusive. The
authors' emphasis on "how a measure is used," moreover, would be
better taken if they ever specifically discussed how much the
measure is used. Of course, to acknowledge distinctions of degree
in spanking would reveal complexities that are lacking in the
authors' taxonomy, under which spanking and child abuse are of
purely distinct essences. In any case, the ongoing kinship between
spanking and abuse demands far more contemplation than most defenders of corporal punishment seem
willing to give.
Finally, the authors' interpretation of child abuse data on
Sweden is severely flawed. Citing Dr. Larzelere, the authors tell
us that in 1980, the rate of child beatings in Sweden was twice
that of the United States. At the same time, government statistics
indicate that police reports of child abuse rose four-fold from
1984 to 1994. Think about these two figures. Are we really to
believe that Sweden today has eight times as much child abuse per
capita as the U.S. (assuming that child abuse in Sweden did not
decline sharply from 1980 to 1984)? Does the rate of child
admissions into Swedish hospitals reflect such a crisis? If not,
how can this data be explained?
These changes in the Swedish law appear to be accompanied by
genuine changes in popular attitude. The same government report
which the authors cite reveals that of residents surveyed (in a
random sample containing a number of immigrants from markedly
authoritarian cultures) 56% favor exclusively non-physical
discipline for children; 22% said they disapprove of corporal
punishment but find themselves sometimes using it under duress; 11%
said they favor corporal punishment at least in lighter forms.
As for the alarming rise of teen violence in Sweden (which the
authors do not clearly relate to the argument at hand), this can be
explained by recent developments other than the banning of corporal
punishment. When Sweden entered the European Economic Union in the
early 1990's, it experienced an abundance of new international
commerce. Unfortunately, freer trade has also resulted in an
unprecedented volume of narcotics trafficking--along with the rise
of gangs and gang violence that is normally associated with the
drug trade in all parts of the world. (Drug addiction itself can
also be an uncivilizing influence, especially with young people.)
To claim that spanking is an effective deterrent, moreover,
fails to satisfy the question of whether spanking is just.
Consider the common argument that very young children may require
spanking because intellectually they are not yet able to
appreciate non-physical sanctions, whereas older children and
adults generally are. This rationale is self-defeating in a
civilized society, for how deserving of chastisement can a child
with such limited mental awareness be in the first place?
The authors should be a little more circumspect in extolling
the deterrent value of spanking. There are unfortunately many
people who would see no reason why they should take chances on the
possible insufficiency of mild spanking to continually deter their
pleasure-seeking children.
As the authors' circular thinking illustrates, the case for
spanking generally relies too much on basic semantics to have much
scientific weight (though this is hardly the only grounds for
discredit). The word "spanking" itself for many people suggests
particular virtues (e.g., mildness, judiciousness, caring intent)
that are not actually contained in its literal meaning--and
certainly not inherent to the act of slapping somebody on the
buttocks. Spanking apologists, especially in formal writing,
should try to clear up these problems of definition instead of
exploiting them in a bait-and-switch fashion. Without some
acknowledgement that spanking is slapping, that slapping is
hitting, and that any form of hitting, at the very least, can be
child abuse, the arguments for corporal punishment will remain
intellectually hollow and, for untold numbers of children, woefully
deceptive.
Guidelines for Disciplinary Spanking
The following are guidelines that Dr. Den Trumbull has used to advise the parents
he serves in disciplining children. These guidelines should help policymakers
appreciate the legitimacy of disciplinary spanking.
1. Spanking should be used selectively for clear, deliberate misbehavior, particularly
that which arises from a child's persistent defiance of a parent's instruction. It
should be used only when the child receives at least as much encouragement and
praise for good behavior as correction for problem behavior.
2. Milder forms of discipline, such as verbal correction, time-out, and logical
consequences, should be used initially, followed by spanking when noncompliance
persists. Spanking has shown to be an effective method of enforcing time-out with
the child who refuses to comply.
3. Only a parent (or in exceptional situations, someone else who has an intimate
relationship of authority with the child) should administer a spanking.
4. Spanking should not be administered on impulse or when a parent is out of
control. A spanking should always be motivated by love for the purpose of teaching
and correcting, never for revenge.
5. Spanking is inappropriate before 15 months of age and is usually not necessary
until after 18 months. It should be less necessary after 6 years, and rarely, if ever,
used after 10 years of age.
6. After 10 months of age, one slap to the hand of a stubborn crawler or toddler
may be necessary to stop serious misbehavior when distraction and removal have
failed. This is particularly the case when the forbidden object is immovable and
dangerous, such as a hot oven door or an electrical outlet.
7. Spanking should always be a planned action, not a reaction, by the parent and
should follow a deliberate procedure.
The child should be forewarned of the spanking consequence for designated
problem behaviors.
Spanking should always be administered in private (bedroom or restroom) to
avoid public humiliation or embarassment.
One or two spanks should be administered to the buttocks. This is followed
by embracing the child and calmly reviewing the offense and the desired
behavior in an effort to reestablish a warm relationship.
8. Spanking should leave only transient redness of the skin and should never cause
physical injury.
9. If properly administered spankings are ineffective, other appropriate disciplinary
responses should be tried, or the parent should seek professional help. Parents
should never increase the intensity of spankings.