Finally, it will be useful
to call to mind the dubious and transitory nature of merely
material things by occasionally pointing out appropriate illustrations of this: the sight of a youthful corpse or the report of
the collapse of a commercial house has a more humbling effect
than often repeated warnings and censure. [K. G. Hergang, ed.,
Päedagogische Realenzyklopäedie (Encyclopedia of Pedagogy),
1851, quoted in Rutschky]
Feigning friendliness helps even more to conceal this type of cruel
treatment:
When I once asked a schoolmaster how he had been able to
bring it about that the children obeyed him without being
whipped, he replied: I attempt to persuade my pupils by my
entire demeanor that I mean well by them, and I demonstrate
to them through example and illustration that it is to their
disadvantage if they do not obey me. Further, I reward the one
who is the most amenable, the most obedient, the most diligent
in his lessons by preferring him over the other; I call on him
the most, I permit him to read his composition before the class,
I let him do the necessary writing on the blackboard. This way
I awaken the children's zeal so that each wishes to excel, to be
preferred. When one of them then upon occasion does something
that deserves punishment, I reduce his status in the class,
I don't call on him, I don't let him read aloud, I act as though
he were not there. This distresses the children so much that
those who are punished weep copious tears. If there is upon
occasion someone who cannot be educated by such gentle
means, then, to be sure, I must whip him; however, for the
execution thereof I first make such lengthy preparations that
he is more affected by them than by the lashes themselves. I do
not whip him at that moment when he earns the punishment
but postpone it until the following day or the day thereafter.
This provides me with two advantages: first, my blood cools
down in the meantime, and I have leisure to consider how best
to go about the matter; later, the little delinquent will feel
punishment tenfold more sharply because he has had to devote
constant thought to it.
When the day of reckoning arrives, directly after the morning
prayer I make a pathetic address to all the children and tell
them this is a very sad day for me since the disobedience of one
of my dear pupils has imposed on me the necessity of whipping
him. The tears begin to flow, not only his who is to be chastised
but also those of his fellow pupils. After this lecture is over, I
bid the children be seated and I begin the lesson. Not until
school is over do I have the little sinner step forward; I then
pronounce my verdict and ask him if he knows what he has
done to deserve it. After he has given a proper answer, I
administer the lashes in the presence of all the children, turn
to the spectators and tell them it is my heartfelt desire that
this may be the last time I am constrained to whip a child. [C. G.
Salzman (1796), quoted in Rutschky]
For purposes of self-protection, it is only the adults'
friendly manner that remains in the child's memory, accompanied
by a predictable submissiveness on the part of "the little
transgressor" and the loss of his capacity for spontaneous
feeling.
Fortunate are those parents and teachers who have educated
their children so wisely that their counsel is as forceful as a
command, that they seldom have cause to mete out an actual
punishment, and that even in these few cases such methods as
withdrawing certain pleasant but dispensable things, banishing
the children from one's presence, recounting their disobedience
to persons whose approbation they desire, etc., are feared as the
harshest punishment. Yet few parents are so fortunate. Most of
them must occasionally resort to more severe measures. But if
they want to instill geniune obedience in their children by so
doing, both their miens and words during the chastisement must
be serious but not cruel or hostile.
One should be composed and serious, announce the punishment,
carry it out, and say nothing more until the act is completed
and the little transgressor is once again ready to accept
counsel and commands....
If after the chastisement the pain lasts for a time, it is
unnatural to forbid weeping and groaning at once. But if the
chastised use these annoying sounds as a means of revenge, then
the first step is to distract them by assigning little tasks or
activities. If this does not help, it is permissible to forbid
the weeping and to punish them if it persists, until it finally
ceases after the new chastisement. [J. B. Basedow, Methodenbuch
fur Väter und Mütter der Familien und Völker (Handbook for Fathers
and mothers of Families and Nations), 1773, quoted in Rutschky]
Crying as a natural reaction to pain is suppressed here by means
of renewed beating. To suppress feelings, various techniques may
be used:
Now let us see how exercises can aid in the complete suppression
of affect. Those who know the strength of a deep-seated habit
also know that self-control and perseverance are required in
order to break it. Affects can be regarded in the same category
as deep-rooted habits. The more persevering and patient one's
disposition in general, the more efficient it is in specific cases
in overcoming an inclination or bad habit. Thus, all exercises
that teach children self-control, that make them patient and
persevering, aid in the suppression of inclinations. For this
reason, all exercises of this sort deserve special attention in the
education of children and are to be regarded as one of its most
important elements even though they are almost universally
ignored.
There are many such exercises and they can be presented in
such a way that children gladly submit to them; you need only
know the correct manner of approaching the children and
choose a time when they are in a good humor. An example of
such an exercise is keeping silent. Ask a child: Do you think
you could remain silent for a few hours sometime, without
saying a word? Make it pleasurable for him to make the attempt,
until he eventually passes the test. Afterwards spare nothing in
persuading him that it is an accomplishment to practice such
self-control. Repeat the exercise, making it more difficult each
time, partly by lengthening the period of silence, partly by
giving him cause to speak or by depriving him of something.
Continue these exercises until you see that the child has attained
a degree of skill therein. Then entrust him with secrets and see
if he can be silent even then. If he reaches the point of being
able to restrain his tongue, then he is also capable of other
things, and the honor attained thereby will encourage him to
undertake other tests. One such test is to go without certain
things one loves. Children especially love the pleasures of the
senses. One must occasionally test whether they can control
themselves in this regard. Give them fine fruits and when they
reach for them, put them to the test. Could you bring yourself
to save this fruit until tomorrow? Could you make someone a
present of it? Proceed as I have just instructed in connection
with keeping silent. Children love movement. They do not like
to keep still. Train them here as well to learn self-control. Also
put their bodies to the test insofar as their health permits: let
them go hungry and thirsty, bear heat and cold, perform difficult
labors, but see that this occurs with their acquiescence; force
must not be applied or these exercises will lose their efficacy. I
promise you that they will give children brave, persevering, and
patient dispositions that will later be all the more efficient in
suppressing evil inclinations. Let us take the case of a child who
prattles, very often talking for no reason at all. This habit can be
broken by the following exercise. After you have thoroughly
explained his misbehavior to the child, say: "Now let us test
whether you can stop prattling. I shall see how many times you
speak today without thinking first." Then one pays careful heed
to everything he says, and when he prattles, one makes clear
that he is in error and makes note of how many times this has
happened in one day. The following day, say to him: "Yesterday
you prattled so and so many times. Now let us see how many
times you will be in error today." And one continues in this
manner. If the child still has any sense of honor and good
instincts, he will be sure to forsake his error little by little in
this way.
Along with these general exercises, one must also undertake
special ones that are directly aimed at restraining affect, but
these must not be tried until the above mentioned methods
have first been used. A single example can stand for all the rest,
because I must pull in my sails a little in order not to go on at
too great length. Let us assume a child is vindictive and your
methods have brought him to the point of being inclined to suppress
this passion. After he has promised to do so, put him to the test
in the following manner: tell him you intend to put his
perserverance in controlling this passion to the test; admonish
him to be on his guard and to be watchful for the first attacks of
the enemy. Then secretly order someone to give the child an
undeserved reproof when he is not expecting it so that you can
see how he will behave. If he succeeds in self-control then you
must praise his accomplishment and cause him to perceive as
much as possible the satisfaction proceeding from self-control.
Later, one must repeat the same test. If he cannot pass it, one
must punish him lovingly and admonish him to behave better
another time. One need not be severe with him. Where there are
many children, one must hold up as examples to the others those
who have done well in the test.
One must help the children as much as possible with these tests.
One must teach them how to be on their guard. One must make them
take as much pleasure as possible in the process so that they are
not intimidated by the difficulties. For it should be mentioned
that if the children do not take pleasure in these tests, all
will be in vain. So much for the exercises. [Sulzer, quoted in
Rutschky]
The results of this struggle against strong emotions are so
disastrous because the suppression begins in infancy, i.e., before
the child's self has had a chance to develop.
Another rule with very important consequences: Even the child's
permissible desires should always be satisfied only if the
child is in an amiable or at least calm mood but never while he
is crying or behaving in an unruly fashion. First he must have
regained his composure even if his previous behavior has been
caused, for example, by his legitimate and periodic need to be
fed--only then, after a brief pause, should one grant the child's
wish. This interval is necessary because the child must not be
given even the slightest impression that anything can be won by
crying or by unruly behavior. On the contrary, the child perceives
very quickly that he will reach his goal only by means of the
opposite sort of behavior, by self-control (albeit still
unconscious). A good, sound habit can be formed with incredible
swiftness (as, on the other hand, can its contrary). Much will
have been gained by this, for a good foundation has an infinite
number of far-reaching consequences for the future. Here again,
however, it is clear how infeasible are these and all similar
principles--which must be regarded as of the utmost importance
--if, as is usually the case, children of this age are entrusted
almost exlusively to domestics, who rarely have the requisite
understanding, at least in these matters.
The training just described will give the child a substantial
head start in the art of waiting and will prepare him for another,
more important one: the art of self-denial. After what has been
said, it can be taken almost for granted that every impermissible
desire, be it to the child's own disadvantage or not, must be met
with an unfailingly consistent and absolute refusal. Refusal
alone, however, is not enough. One must at the same time see
to it that the child accepts the refusal calmly; one must take
care that this calm acceptance becomes a sound habit, if need
be by making use of a harsh word, a threatening gesture, and
the like. Be sure not to make any exceptions!--then this too
will take place much more easily and quickly than one thinks
possible. Every exception of course invalidates the rule, both
prolonging the training and making it more difficult.--On the
other hand, accede to the child's every permissible desire
lovingly and gladly.
Only in this way can one aid the child in the salutary and
indispensable process of learning to subordinate and control his
will, to distinguish for himself the difference between what is
permissible and what is not. This cannot be done by anxiously
removing everything that arouses impermissible desires. The
foundation for the requisite spiritual strength must be laid at an
early age, and it--like every other kind of strength--can be
increased only through practice. If one waits until later to begin,
then success will be much more difficult to attain, and the child,
who has had no preparation for this, will become bitter in his
disposition.
A very good exercise in the art of self-denial, appropriate for
this age, is to give the child frequent opportunity to learn to
watch other people in his immediate vicinity eating and drinking
without desiring the same for himself. [D. G. M. Schreber
(1858), quoted in Rutschky]
Thus, the child is supposed to learn "self-renunciation" from the
the very beginning, to destroy as early as possible everything in
himself that is not "pleasing to God":
True love flows from the heart of God, the source and image of
all fatherhood (Ephesians 3:15), is revealed and prefigured in
the love of the Redeemer, and is engendered, nourished, and
preserved in man by the Spirit of Christ. This love emanating
from above purifies, sanctifies, transfigures, and strengthens
natural parental love. This hallowed love has as its primary goal
the growth of the child's interior self, his spiritual life, his
liberation from the power of the flesh, his elevation above the
demands of the merely natural life of the senses, his inner
independence from the world threatening to engulf him. Therefore,
this love is concerned that the child learn at an early age to
renounce, control, and master himself, that he not blindly
follow the promptings of the flesh and the senses but rather the
higher will and the promptings of the spirit. This hallowed love
can thus be severe even as it can be mild, can deny even as it
can bestow, each according to its time; it also knows how to
bring good by causing hurt, it can impose harsh renunciation
like a physician who prescribes bitter medicine, like a surgeon
who knows very well that the cut of his knife will cause pain
and yet cuts in order to save a life. "Thou shalt beat him [the
child] with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell"
(Proverbs 23:14). With these words, Solomon reveals to us that
true love can also be severe. This is not the kind of stoic or
narrowly legalistic severity that is full of self-satisfaction
and would rather sacrifice its charge than ever deviate from its
principles; no, however severe, it always lets its tender concern
shine through, like the sun through the clouds, in a spirit of
friendliness, compassion, and patient hope. For all its steadfast-
ness, it is yet yielding and always knows what it does and why.
[K. A. Schmid, ed., Enzyklopädie des gesamten Erziehungs- und
Unterrichtswesens (A Comprehensive Encyclopedia of Education and
Instruction), 1887, quoted in Rutschky]
It is a foregone conclusion exactly which feelings are good and
valuable for the child (or the adult) and which are not; exuberance,
actually a sign of strength, is assigned to the latter category and
consequently attacked:
One of the traits in children that border on abnormality is
exuberance, which can take many forms but usually begins with
exceptionally agitated activity of the voluntary muscles,
followed to a greater or lesser degree by other manifestations,
should an aroused desire not be immediately satisfied. Children
who are just beginning to learn to talk and whose dexterity is
still limited to reaching for nearby objects need only be unable
to grasp an object or not be allowed to keep it; if they have a
tendency toward an excitable disposition, they will then start to
scream and make unrestrained movements. Malice develops
quite naturally in this child, for whom feelings are no longer
subject to the general laws of pleasure and pain but have
degenerated from their natural state to such an extent that the
child not only loses all capacity for sympathy but evinces
pleasure in the discomfort and pain of others. A child's ever-
growing discomfort at the loss of the pleasure he would have
had if his wishes had been granted eventually finds satisfaction
only in revenge, i.e., in the comforting knowledge that his peers
have been subjected to the same feeling of discomfort or pain.
The more often the child experiences the comforting feeling of
revenge, the more this becomes a need, which seeks satisfaction
at every idle moment. In this stage, the child uses unruly
behavior to inflict every possible unpleasantness, every conceivable
annoyance, on others, only for the sake of alleviating the pain
he feels because his wishes are not being fulfilled. This fault
leads with logical consistency to the next; his fear of punishment
awakens the need to tell lies, to be devious and deceitful, to use
these stratagems that require only some practice in order to be
successful. The irresistible desire to be malicious gradually
develops in the same way, as does the penchant for stealing,
kleptomania. Willfulness also appears as a secondary but no less
serious consequence of the original fault.
...Mothers, who are ordinarily entrusted with their children's
education, very rarely know how to deal with unruly behavior
successfully.
...As in the case of all illnesses that are difficult to cure, so
too, in the case of the psychic fault of exuberance, the greatest
care must be devoted to prophylaxis, to prevention of the disorder.
The best way for an education to reach this goal is by adhering
unswervingly to the principle of shielding the child as much as
possible from all influences that might stimulate feelings, be
they pleasant or painful. [S. Landmann, Über den Kinderfehler der
Heftigkeit (On the Character Fault of Exuberance in Children),
1896, quoted in Rutschky]
Significantly, cause and effect are confused here and what is attacked
as a cause is something that the pedagogues have themselves brought
about. This is the case not only in pedagogy but in psychiatry and
criminology as well. Once "wickedness" has been produced in a child by
suppressing vitality, any measure taken to stamp it out is justified:
...In school, discipline precedes the actual teaching. There is
no sounder pedagogical axiom than the one that children must
first be trained before they can be taught. There can be discipline
without instruction, as we have seen above, but no instruction
without discipline.
We insist therefore that learning in and of itself is not
discipline, is not a moral endeavor, but discipline is an
essential part of learning.
This must be kept in mind when administering discipline. Discipline
is, as stated above, not primarily words but deeds; if presented
in words, it is not instruction but commands.
...It proceeds from this that discipline, as the Old Testament
word indicates, is basically chastisement (musar). The perverse
will, which to its own and other's detriment is not in command
of itself, must be broken. Discipline is, as Schleiermacher puts it,
life-inhibiting, is at the very least curtailment of vital activity
insofar as the latter cannot develop as it wishes but is confined
within specific limits and subjected to specific rules. Depending
on the circumstances, however, it can also mean restraint; in
other words, partial suppression of enjoyment, of the joy of
living. This can be true even on a spiritual level: for example,
the member of a church congregation can be deprived temporarily
of the highest possible enjoyment, the enjoyment of Holy
Communion, until he has regained his religious resolve. A
consideration of the idea of punishment reveals that, in the task
of education, healthy discipline must always include corporal
punishment. Its early and firm but sparing application is the
very basis of all genuine discipline because it is the power of
the flesh that needs most to be broken....
Where human authorities are no longer capable of maintaining
discipline, divine authority steps in forcibly and bows down
both individuals and nations under the insufferable yoke of their
own wickedness. [Enzyklopädie...quoted in Rutschky]
Schleiermacher's "inhibition of life" is openly avowed here
and extolled as a virtue. But, like many moralists, the
author overlooks the fact that warm and genuine feelings are unable to grow without the vital soil of "exuberance."
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